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Winning Custody of Your Children

Getting Through the "Gut-Wrenching" Child Custody Process and KEEPING YOUR KIDS!

Experts reveal how to win custody and then keep your custody plan from being destroyed as your ex tries to "chip away" and modify it.

Fathers have been given specific rights by family courts in every state. This publication has been developed to help you:
GAIN CUSTODY OF YOUR CHILDREN
AND
DEFEND YOUR CUSTODY RIGHTS WHEN YOUR EX INTERFERES!

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This is an entirely unique publication. It contains information from Dr. Barry Bricklin and Dr. Gail Elliot, two nationally-known and respected Child Custody Experts, who have been given access to those private "inner circle" areas of the judicial process that ultimately decides the fate of your Children.

THIS IS THE MOST COMPLETE VOLUME OF
INFORMATION ABOUT

Winning and Keeping

Custody of Your Children
EVER OFFERED!

CONTENTS:

Dr. Barry Bricklin and Dr. Gail Elliot, two of the country's most famous and respected child custody experts, have developed a unique program that gives Men the best chance of winning a favorable custody arrangement.

Let's read what Dr. Bricklin and Dr. Elliot
have to say about the Custody Process...

Dear Father,

Please---we do not want to hear these words from YOU...it's much easier to win the first time around then to re-open your case later.

If you are presently involved in a child custody dispute (or might be involved in one in the future) we have identified information of great importance that you should have.

THIS INFORMATION WILL HELP YOU, AS A FATHER, MAKE YOUR STRONGEST CASE FOR CUSTODY. It will also directly help protect your children now and in the future. Your children will thank you one day for taking "their best interests" seriously!

First, we would like you to know how we have come to be in possession of so much important information. Over the 30-plus years of our working in the child custody field, we have become increasingly involved in cases that frequently may find their way into court. We have acted as expert witnesses, custody evaluators or consultants for hundreds of parents involved in custody disputes all over the country.

Further, as editors of a national publication on custody matters, as responders to a 24-hour "hotline" where we answer questions from professionals about our tests, and as directors of a national organization of custody experts, we continually hear from judges, attorneys, professional experts and parents who in one way or another have been caught up in custody disputes, some of them simple, but most longstanding, complex and bitter.

As a result of all of these activities, we came to gather a huge amount of information on how various psychological and legal strategies, different kinds of evidence, and types of allegations work (or fail to work), both in the courtroom as well as in out-of-court negotiations.

The following are some of our thoughts on what we have experienced. Everything discussed here is covered in our new Strategies handbook.

We were shocked at how many bright, wise, loving---indeed even "savvy"---fathers did not know the single most important fact that must be true if one is to prevail in a custody dispute. And this must be the best kept secret in the world, because even extremely intelligent, sophisticated professionals fail to make use of it. Indeed, even attorneys, who themselves as parents are caught up in custody disputes, frequently do not know how to make his single most important factor work for them.

We identified fourteen "key behaviors" that differentiate between parents who do well in custody disputes from those who do not. We consider these behaviors to be strategically critical.

We have identified what we see as the single biggest mistake a father in a custody dispute can make. And the irony here is that our own legal system actually encourages fathers to make this huge mistake.

If you are a father in a child custody dispute, you must learn to recognize (and deal with) blatantly wrong and immoral strategies that will likely be used against you. To add insult to injury, these strategies can be effective. And in our experience, many attorneys fail to help their clients deal with these tragically effective strategies, because they are more psychological than legal strategies, and attorneys are not often trained either to recognize or deal with them.

Another exceedingly important point is that too many fathers do not fully understand all the important things their attorneys should be doing for them. Simply put, many fathers do not know what they should ask for.

While on the topic of attorneys, we also discovered two important strategies that will literally "force" an attorney to do a better job for a client.
One of the saddest situations happens when a child has been bribed or manipulated into turning against the father--and frequently this father is, in our opinions, the better of the two parents. A case we are actively working with right now illustrates what we are talking about. The father, a warm and hard-working professional, runs into all of the following from his ten year old daughter, when he tries to phone or comes to pick the girl up for a visit.

"I don't want to talk now. I'm busy." (The child slams the phone down.)

"You know I don't like to see you!"

"You're bothering us; don't call me !" (The father, rightly, wonders who the "us" is in this statement.)

And the father frequently hears what is a sure sign of a bribed or manipulated child, words and sentences that are obviously not of the child's own creation, but rather from the bitter and vindictive other parent:

"You decided to leave us. This is all your fault. You're not entitled to share in my life anymore."

Unfortunately, most fathers singled out to be the victims of such vitriolic attacks are poorly equipped to deal with them. They start out trying to be calm and loving, but all too soon are worn down by the hurt, frustration and road blocks continuously thrown up when they attempt contacts with the child. They end up either retreating, or counter-attacking---neither of which can lead to a happy outcome. It is essential that fathers caught up in this kind of trap learn the four strategies that can be truly effective and helpful in this situation.

We have seen the cases where fathers failed to prevail because they had minor physical illnesses that were neither life-threatening nor related to childcare abilities. Finally (but of major importance) we learned ways a father caught up in a custody dispute can control costs.

It has made us sad and sick at how often it is blatantly obvious that the wrong parent often wins during the custody process. The best parent loses; the parent who operates "in the best interests of the child" loses! Why? Because it is surprising how many fathers, even very bright, professional people, do not know how to make their best case--even with their own attorneys!

You will find the answers and solutions to EVERYTHING discussed in this letter in our new "Strategies" handbook written for fathers involved in custody disputes.

Unlike a hardcover book, that can take a year or two to produce, we are able to review and update whenever necessary by using the latest information as it becomes available to us through our continuing contact with judges, attorneys, mental health professionals, other parents, the latest scientific research, and experts on many special and unique problems that may arise.

YOU ARE ALWAYS PURCHASING THE LATEST, MOST UP-TO-DATE VERSION!

Finally, it is very important to us, as people (and parents ourselves) who on a daily basis witness what can go wrong for a father caught up in a custody dispute, that we may be able to help you avoid mistakes that can prove disastrous.

Good luck!

Dr. Barry Bricklin and Dr. Gail Elliot

16th Edition-Fully Revised and Updated
"Relied upon by more than 20,000 parents since 1989---
you always get the most recently updated information!"

Chapter Contents:

• FORWARD ............. INTRODUCTION AND COMMENTS BY DR. BRICKLIN AND DR. ELLIOT
• CHAPTER 1.............. THE ROLE OF "BIAS"
• CHAPTER 2.............. MOST FREQUENTLY MADE ERROR
• CHAPTER 3.............. FOURTEEN KEY STRATEGIES
• CHAPTER 4.............. THE SINGLE BIGGEST FALSE ASSUMPTION
• CHAPTER 5.............. STRATEGIES THAT MAY BE USED AGAINST YOU
• CHAPTER 6.............. IMPORTANT THINGS AN ATTORNEY SHOULD BE DOING FOR YOU
• CHAPTER 7.............. STRATEGIES THAT WILL MAKE YOUR OWN ATTORNEY WORK HARDER FOR YOU
• CHAPTER 8.............. THE BRIBED OR MANIPULATED CHILD
• CHAPTER 9.............. A NOTE ABOUT PHYSICAL DISABILITY
• CHAPTER 10............ CONTROLLING COSTS
• CHAPTER 11............ WHAT IS THE BEST APPROACH FOR A PARENT TO USE IN A CHILD CUSTODY DISPUTE?
• CHAPTER 12............ WHAT ARE THE COSTS OF A TYPICAL COMPREHENSIVE CUSTODY EVALUATION?
• CHAPTER 13............ HOW CAN I MAKE SURE A CUSTODY EVALUATOR HAS THE PROPER EXPERTISE TO CARRY OUT A COMPREHENSIVE EVALUATION?
• CHAPTER 14............ WHAT CAN I DO IF I BELIEVE AN EVALUATION WAS BIASED, INCOMPLETE OR INACCURATE?
• CHAPTER 15............ SUMMARY AND MORE

More Contents

• DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AS A CONSIDERATION IN CHILD CUSTODY AND VISITATION DECISIONS An Important Discussion About How Court Systems Handle the Problem of Domestic Violence When Making Child Custody and Visitation Decisions.
• (1) ADULTERY, (2) EXTRA-MARITAL SEXUAL MIS-CONDUCT, (3) "FRIENDLY PARENT DOCTRINE," (4) CAREGIVING PARENT, (5) RELIGION, (6) JUDICIAL BIAS, (7) "PSYCHOLOGICAL PARENT DOCTRINE," (8) MOTHERS Vs. FATHERS BIAS, (9) MANY MORE The importance of each in current custody and visitation decisions.
• RELOCATION WITH CHILDREN AFTER DIVORCE Can you move out of state with your kids? Can you stop your ex from moving out of state with your kids? What are your legal rights and options in regard to relocation
• INTERFERENCE WITH VISITATION AS GROUNDS FOR MODIFYING CUSTODY "I worked out a visitation plan with my ex when we got divorced, but now she never lets me see the kids." "The court gave me every-other-weekend and all day Wednesday to be with my daughter but I haven't seen her in over a year!"
• ENFORCING YOUR CUSTODY AND VISITATION PLAN WHEN IT IS INTERFERED WITH "What good is it to have court-ordered custody and visitation rights if they are always being interfered with by your ex? THERE ARE LEGAL PROCESSES AVAILABLE IN ALL 50 STATES THAT WILL HELP DEFEND YOUR CUSTODY AND VISITATION RIGHTS! Learn what they are and how you can use them!
• CHANGE OF CIRCUMSTANCES AS GROUNDS TO MODIFY CUSTODY
  Courts have the power to modify child custody arrangements to meet the needs of the child and to respond to changes in the parents' lives. A parent seeking to change custody through the court usually must show that the conditions have changed substantially since the last custody order. This report discusses in detail everything that you need to know if you or your former spouse seeks to modify a custody order because of a "change in circumstances."
• PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME (PAS) WHAT IS PAS? HOW CAN YOU COMBAT IT? HOW DO YOU HANDLE IT IN COURT? EXPERTS PRESENT THE MOST COMPLETE VOLUME OF INFORMATION FOR PARENTS ABOUT PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME. PAS---sometimes called Parental Alienation--- is a disorder that arises primarily in the context of child-custody disputes. The main way that it appears is the child's campaign of abuse and aggression against a parent, a campaign that has no justification. It results primarily from the programming (brainwashing) of a child by one of the parents, whose goal is the complete vilification of the other parent.
• CHILD CUSTODY STATE LAWS There is a current 15 to 17 page report for each of the 50 states and DC. All State Laws concerning: (1) CUSTODY, (2) VISITATION, and (3) CHILD SUPPORT are covered. You'll be able to download the state that you choose.
• CHILD CUSTODY CHECKLIST There are many items to think about and consider as you prepare to get involved, or re-involved, in any custody dispute.

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