"Enormously needful parenting advice"  –Gary Halbert         
                                                   

"The Greatest
Parenting Secret
In History!"

Martha Stevens  Parent of Five

"Finally! You Can Finish Lecturing, Scolding, Pushing And Goad And Start Acquiring The Results  You Want . . . Once You Discover This Long Forgotten Secret!"

What secret? I'll reveal it in just a few moments. But I'll tell you this... children want you to discover it because it does growing up more easier for them.  Simply as you want to be a booming mom or dad, your children want to be booming too. Booming at being a kid, booming at growing up. They actually do. But what do they know? After all, they're the new kids on the block to this adventure called life. And Underneath, What They Wonder About  and Really Want To Cognize Is... "What is life all just about and what do I need to  cognize to navigate it successfully?"  Problem is, they don't have the answers, and cipher is telling them, and they don't cognize what questions to ask. What if you had just started a new job and found yourself in that predicament? So you ask, "What am I supposed to do?" and everyone shrugs.  What would-be you do? Guess? Take a few stabs in the dark? Why not? Well,  children do the same thing, they guess and start doing what comes "naturally." In another words, any they feel like doing. After all, if it comes natural, and feels good, it's gotta be okay. Right? Infantile reasoning, but if it becomes their internal guideline it just leads to a lot of bad behavior and the "my way is better than your way" attitude, and unfortunately, a lot of yelling and scolding. Teaching them the paramount principles of life that we all live by, and the matching life skills that do it work, sheds light and understanding on their path, helps them do sense out of the world, which in turn helps them develop their personality, attitude and behavior more than any numbers of yelling, scolding, pushing and goad could  ever do. So please see what I have to tell you because once you discover the "Secret" a lot of the usual "normal" parenting problems will just fade away. Letters from stunned but delighted parents . . .

"I tried everything!"

"Your know-how is the only one that worked in acquiring my 2-1/2 yr. old to finish sport about the house, and I tried everything!"                                       -- Joseph M, Colorado (2-1/2 yr old son)

"I was sick and tired of my son's whining"

"I was sick and tired of my son's whining every time he had to do his chores. I had to push and prod and listen to him whine constantly. It was drive me out of my mind and I didn't cognize what to do except yell a lot. The next evening once he started in again, I sat down and told him what you aforesaid in your book just about being a good worker. I nearly fell over once he jumped up and took out the trash and hasn't whined since! I can't believe it! But I love it!"                            -- Amy, Edmonds, WA (9 yr old son)

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"Learning your know-how of raising children was the single most exciting thing that has happened to me this year."                           -- Mike, Bellevue, WA (3-1/2 yr old daughter)

"Invaluable..."

"I was instructed long ago that the older women were to help train the younger women. Your experience is invaluable, and God gave you the ability to put it together in such a way that younger mothers can discover from you. Thanks for doing this!
                                                               Mary Shores    : ) 

The Greatest Parenting Secret 
in History Revealed by a 
Parent of Five 

Dear Mom and Dad,

It's not supposed to be a secret, so why is it? Simply that somewhere in our earth of high technology, higher learning and advanced science, it got lost in the shuffle. 

Hi, my name is Martha Stevens

I'm a parent of five (3 girls 2 boys), all full-grown now with families of their own. And you cognize . . . everything I knowing in the process of raising my kids came together with great clarity once they were full-grown and gone. It was easy to see what I should have done after it was over, but the time has passed, they've full-grown up and my job is done.

So, I sat down and wrote the book I will I had once I was a young parent because if I'd acknowledged then what I cognize now . . . how more easier it would-be have been for me. Now I want to pass it on to you, to shorten your learning curve. 

But please take a moment to get the information below. It's like no another parenting information you've see anyplace else.

Learn from me 

If I can help you to avoid several of the lurching blocks and pitfalls it will not only help you, but besides your children who will be able to grow up with the kind of coaching job and mentoring they need from you in order to blossom to their fullest potential. You will besides grow into your fullest potential as the fantastic parent you want to be.

So, just what is 
the Secret?

It was only after my children had full-grown that in looking back I could clearly see the twists and turns, the difficulties and the obstacles that children experience in the process of growing up. It besides became clean what it was that they really, really needful to navigate through those years without crashing.

So I began writing these thoughts down, not intending to write a book, however, having once put pen to paper I just unbroken writing.  

But, I won't support you in suspense.

The private secret is...

Surprised? So more emphasis is placed on educating the intellect — the BRAIN — that the heart is just overlooked.

The brain gives one knowledge, but the heart gives it ... Direction ... and enriches life in a way that logic alone cannot. 

One can grow up and be a super genius, but without the emotional balance and steadiness that comes from an educated heart, a person's life may not run as swimmingly as they would-be like, and even as wind up being wasted or wrecked. No one wants that for their children.

Educating the heart is done by teaching Life's Lessons — the paramount principles that govern our lives — and the matching Life Skills that do it work. 

Educating the heart develops good character 
qualities and includes such things as . . .

• Honesty
• Kindness
• Integrity 
• Unselfishness
• Being a willing and diligent worker
• Doing chores without being told
• Reaching out and portion others
• Learning colloquial skills
• Devising and keeping friends  

There is more much . . .

They need to cognize the intention of Rules (creates order out of chaos), and why they have to follow them. 

They need to cognize that . . .

The way they behave is 
the way they are treated  

In the home: Good or bad behavior earns either the goodwill or anger of the parents and the treatment they get varies accordingly. A child who continues to behave badly just hasn't ready-made that connection and responds, "What'd I do?"

Outside the home: If they behave badly or rudely, folk draw away from them and don't want to be their friend. Bad behavior prevents the development of warm and close friendships and can lead to loneliness, depression and another emotional problems. On the another hand, once they behave well folk draw close and want to be their friend, consequent in more happiness, greater self confidence, and healthy self esteem. 

Most kids ne'er numbers this out until they are full-grown up, but by then more damage has been created in their lives. So don't leave it up to chance. Teaching just this one simple conception . . . "The way you behave is the way you are treated" . . . rescues several you and them from more grief. Several folk grow up and never get it — they ne'er actually get the connection between what they do or say and the way folk react to them — often becoming blamers really early on and for the rest of their lives blame everyone else about them for things they themselves are responsible for. Chances are you probably cognize a few folk like that.

Educating the heart
does a big difference

I instructed these lessons to my own kids as they were growing up and because of it they were really easy to raise — all five of them — even as through the so-called difficult teens. (Did I mention that for galore of those years I was a unmarried working mother? So the whole load of teaching, training and raising them fell on me.)   

If I had accomplished then how effective the lessons were, I surely would-be have been more diligent and consistent than I was. However, I'm grateful for the little I did do because even as that ready-made a huge difference. You see, I had always thought my kids were just naturally easy to get on with, to talk to, to raise—and to a certain extent, they were—but after teaching these life lessons to a schoolroom of kids for several years and observant another parents with their children, and seeing the outcome, I cognize the lessons ready-made a major difference.

In The Schoolroom

Once a week I teach these Life Skills lessons to a second grade class of 7 and 8 year old kids. I have been doing this for the past six years. The teacher is delighted with the improvement in class behavior and attitudes of the children. No more troublemakers either because their behavior quickly improves as the lessons sink in, and they, too, become good little kids. Another teachers detected the difference in the children and asked if I would-be do the same in their classrooms.

The kids love these lessons and look forward to my coming to their class every week. Last year it happened that recess instantly followed my class time, and once once I ran overtime and the recess bell rang, I remarked, "Oops, it's time for me to stop!" The children reacted spontaneously, "No, no, don't stop!"  They wanted me to finish what I was talking about. Were Life's Lessons desired more than recess? Yes! Pretty amazing, isn't it? 

Let me be quick to say that I don't put on a "show" to support them entertained. I'm just an ordinary person (I think I'm even as somewhat boring), I just go in and talk to them just about these life lessons ... and the subject matter itself engrosses them. The class is interactive, I draw them out, get their opinions, their questions (they ask really thoughtful ones), and they get to discover just about life and what it holds for them, and what they need to do to prepare themselves. And even as more important, they become aware of how important their education actually is. The teacher is pleased at how more much studious the class became after these lessons.

What is it they are
so eager to know? 

Well, life is, after all, a puzzle, and they want several help, several information on putt the pieces together. That's what they want! And that's what they want from you, their parent. It's not enough to do them brush their teeth and clean their room. They want to cognize what life is just about and how to manage it. . . how they fit in. . . why are things the way they are, and so on. 

Growing up is hard to do and they want to cognize how to do it right! 

They really want the answers
to questions like . . .

• "What is life all about?" 
• "How do I fit in?"
• "What are the rules?"
• "Why do I have to follow the rules?"
• "Why do I have to do this . . . that . . . or the another thing?".
• "How come? . . . who says?. . . so what? . . . who cares?" . . . etc.

These aren't "book learning" type questions, they are "heart learning," yet virtually all emphasis is placed on the academics — educating the BRAIN. Of course education is vital for acquiring through life successfully. However, the problem is that educating the HEART simply falls by the wayside.  Parents tend to expect Sunday school to fill the gap, and even as although the spiritual overlaps and polishes the another areas in your child, the actual molding of the heart and its emotions must be done in the home by YOU! But how?

That is the Big Question . . .

How do you teach your children to be emotionally balanced? To be good hearted? How do you teach good character qualities and life principles and instill it deep in their hearts? It's actually not as hard as you may think. Kids love it, no, change that to . . . they are hungry for it! Why else would-be the second graders be willing to give up recess? They really do want to know!
 

Children, like all humans, have Four sides . . . 1. Physical  (The Body)     You feed, clothe and support them active and in good shape. 2. Mental  (The Brain)     You send them to school to be educated. 3. Emotional  (The Heart)     It, too, must be educated. Done by the parents – YOU – at home. 4. Spiritual  (Your Faith)     Gives meaning to life. Without it, the another three do not satisfy us. Taking care of all four sides produces a "well rounded" individual. As the parent, your obligation is to see that all four sides of your child are cared for and developed. After all, what are parents for? Are you just a caretaker? A warden? No. You are, and must see yourself as... ό Teacher  ό Mentor ό Coach ό Manual and  ό Cheerleader  ...all rolled into one.  Teachers, Mentors, Coaches and Guides not only teach their students, cheer them on with praise and encouragement, but besides critique and correct them. You'll notice Critic is not on the list.  The Remove of Power and Control From Here η To There θ  —  In EIGHTEEN Years!  — You raise your child from a wholly helpless baby once ALL controls are in your hands, to a fully functioning young man or woman once ALL CONTROLS are in THEIR hands. (Yes, you will have to let go). Inside a span of 18 years you must gradually remove ALL controls over to them, so that even as although they are still guaranteed to you, they are wholly separated, independent young adults available to step out and stand on their own two feet. "Look out world, here I come!" You actually don't get a second chance  to go back and fix any mistakes Once they've reached that magic age of 18 your job is done!  (Even if you don't think so.)  And what you will have is . . . experience and hindsight!   And then you'll find yourself saying, "Mmmm, you know, I should've done this . . .  or that . . . or the another thing.  But it's too late They've turned 18. What's done is done, your child is no longer listening to you, they have shifted gears and become their own person, intent on running their own life, doing it their way.    However, until that day arrives, you've got activity to do! What do you start with? Start with the basics... WORK! But... why start with WORK? Because the ability to activity hard and get a job done lays the foundation for everything else you will teach them in the years to come. Such a child will be self actuated and accomplish much. Whereas a lazy child is difficult to teach and accomplishes really little even as with appreciable pushing and prodding.  "Laziness is like vinegar to the teeth and smoke to the eyes!" (Proverbs 10:26). It's a harmful quality in a husband or wife, so how more much so should you be careful that it does not take root in your children? An industrious son or girl is a joy, a lazy one an aggravation.  You want them to be: Industrious workers. (Diligent and busy, not slackers or lazy) Self Starters. (Need no pushing or prodding) Able to carry a job to its completion. (Including the "finishing touches") Doing chores without whining or grumbling. (A complaintive child does life weary, but a cooperative, pleasant attitude is energizing, and brings harmony and pleasantness into your home) Reaching out to help others, especially siblings. (What a invaluable quality this is, and how it delights a parent's heart) My book will show you how to eliminate the Number One Battle between you and your child — WORK!  Your child will become: A willing, uncomplaining, diligent worker who does a thorough job and even as does more than asked, without being asked Does his/her chores without being pushed or prodded or shouted at A self starter who doesn't groan or complain The ability to be a good worker, carry a job through, and do it well without complaint, is the most marvelous skill one could have. It is a life skill that will take them through thick and thin no matter what life hands them. A VALUABLE  LIFE SECRET Everything we want to do  or accomplish in life  requires some kind of  sustained effort   to accomplish it.  It's called WORK! Nothing gets done without it.   Yet most kids ne'er quite discover this conception of why they should be hard working. Galore haven't even as gotten past the 1st step of picking up after themselves.  Problem is, once the chronic scolding (you) and resistance (them) begins, a family becomes dysfunctional. That is why WORK is the focus of my book. It underlies everything else you want them to learn. It is the basis of harmonious relationships rather than combative ones and you will have a calm and peaceful home – an oasis from the earth outside.  No matter whether your child is 3 or 16, these principles apply. I've enclosed typical conversations in my book that you can have with your child, devising it easy for you to teach it to them in a pleasant, colloquial way. Results You spend a small fortune arming your kids from the neck DOWN. And then you spend another fortune educating them from the neck UP.  But of what s is it if they  grow up and can't handle life?   How valuable would-be you consider it then to get my book, "Raise Your Kids Right The 1st Time Around, There Is No Second Chance," to educate their heart, the seat of motivation? It is the heart that defines them as to the person they are, and the person they will become. The mere acquisition of cognition does not do that. Hi Martha I do hope this e-mail finds you well. I ordered your ebook. It is tremendous.                            Regards                            Malcolm Don't reinvent the wheel . . .  By the time you discover whether your method  worked or not, they are full-grown and gone . . .  And precious YEARS are lost! Do you actually want to be expression "Clean up your room" for the next 18 years? Instill that quality in your child at an early age and think of all the years of frustration you will save. How galore mothers do you cognize who are still telling their kids at 16 or 17 to clean up their rooms or pick up after themselves? How more is a peaceful home and peaceful relationships with your children worth? How galore years of stress would-be that relieve?   You gain the benefit of at least 25 years of experience without waiting for the years to pass! What an astounding head start that is. The book is solid information all the way through and primarily focuses on work and behavior. It's not just on acquiring them to do their chores, you can find that kind of information anywhere. I show you how to teach them the concepts and principles that underlie the reasons why work is, and will become, an important feature in their lives. That activity and behavior is the basis upon which they attain thing else they want in life. That the satisfs and joy which a job well done brings is priceless!  And you will cognize how to instill that pleasure in your child. You will besides gain a new awareness of your role as teacher, coach, mentor, manual and cheerleader for your kids. It will do what you do, easier.   Martha Thanks so much! I admired the newsletter. Not only did it give me great proposal on raising my child, but besides ready-made me more self aware. Thank you for what you do. I actually appreciate it.                            Liz Tomey Get my book "Raise Your Kids Right The 1st Time Around, There  Is No Second Chance," now for $19.97 and I'll include... — FREE —  THREE Really SPECIAL BONUSES With Your Order BONUS #1 Appreciation and Gratitude   This is key! It is so important. Appreciation and feeling polishes your children and does them shine. It is what underlies good or bad attitudes. Once you grasp the importance of this basic quality you'll understand why time-outs or restrictions, by themselves, don't cure bad attitudes. This lesson besides instills in them an appreciation and feeling for you and all that you do for them and all that they have. This alone will lighten your load and delight your heart.            (Yours Free - s: priceless)   BONUS #2 Measuring the Timeline   This is fun for the kids. This lesson measures their "Timeline" and gives them a glimpse of the future. The futurity is always hard to envision, even as for grownups. But this gives them the "Big Picture," a glimpse of their future, their life. And it helps them to become aware of what's ahead of them and how the things they do now (schoolwork, behavior, attitude, etc.) impacts their future. This builds upon the previous lesson just about appreciation and gratitude. Each lesson flows easily into the next — and their cognition grows.     (Yours Free - s: priceless)   BONUS #3 Building Their "House"   This lesson continues to build upon the previous ones. It is the  third of these three most basic lessons that once you teach it to your kids, you will forever have a "handle" — a simple, kind, and gentle way — for correcting and teaching them all the another lessons and skills they must discover as they grow. Because, the fact is, Mom and Dad, growing up and acquiring it right actually is hard to do.    (Yours Free - s: priceless) These three bonus lessons and the book will instill in your children a sense of responsibility and a caring just about what they do and how they behave — you will begin to notice a change in behavior and attitude taking place and be quietly pleased.  What more can I say? I actually want you to have all this material. This isn't thing I put together on the spur of the moment or in a flash of inspiration. Much than two decades of parenting experience stand behind these invaluable lessons. And with those years came hindsight, knowledge, clarity and, I hope, a measure of wisdom. I cognize you love your children, but sometimes it's tough to plow your way through the frustration and employment you face daily. And you hate it once you find yourself yelling. But that only happens because you don't cognize what else to do because, so far, no matter what you do, nothing seems to change.  You only have 18 years to be a hands-on Mom or Dad. And believe me, the years fly by quicker than you think. (Wasn't it only yesterday your precious baby was born?) Don't let frustration or anger get in the way of enjoying every moment of it. And always remember, yelling is not parenting. My guarantee. . .   — 60 DAY GUARANTEE — If you don't see the results YOU want or expect  -or-  if you are unsatisfied with it in any way at all . . .  YOUR MONEY Wish BE REFUNDED WITHOUT QUESTION       Order through a Safe, Secure Server Instant Access: Click Here To Remove Your Copy Now,  Only $19.97 If you prefer to mail a check instead of ordering online, click here Note: The book doesn't move in a written form that can be mail-clad to you. It must be downloaded and written out from your own computer.  If you need help on downloading, click here for instructions.    Thank you, Martha Stevens raisingkids@aol.com Tell A Friend Do you cognize person who would-be besides like to see this information?  Why not send them the link to this site? Martha Stevens Stanwood, WA 98292 raisingkids@aol.com http://www.raiseyourkidsright.com   Copyright © 2007 Martha Stevens. All Rights Reserved

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