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Dating GuideSex and the Single Mom
by:
Teri Worten
Single moms, more so than anyone, have to be passing careful just about the type of man they choice as life-long partners. No sensible woman wants to be judged soley on her appearence or sex appeal, right? Moreoever, who would-be even as want a man mostly interested in sex without a real commitment, right again? These questions create an age-old conundrum. Exactly, how makes one find a guy who loves them and only wants what is better for them? Let's take it up a notch. How do you resist those natural impulses to throw caution to the wind and break down and have sex?
For starters. . .
Read between the lines.
A wise person once said, Words carry a little weight, but actions truly reveal the entireity of a matter. Once
you meet a new guy, be especially observant of the kinds of things he talks about. Cautiously listen to his conversation. Remember, you can ordinarily discover plenty just about a person just by listening to them. If the oral communication is laced with sexual innuendos, that is your "red flag".
Where’s the fire...
Be suspicious of physical contact early in the relationship. Causal agency who is too
"touchy" after knowing you for a short figure of time strength
have less than honorable motives. Yes, several guys are “touchy feely” with women. But think for a moment, if you marry a man who can't support his hands to himself, you are asking for trouble!
Let get real, here. As single moms, it's only natural to enjoy the attention of men, but don’t allow loneliness or insecurity to propel you into a relationship that may bring pain later. You are far too precious for that, single mom.
Take your time with the physical stuff. Approach the qualitative analysis
relationship the same way you would-be with a platonic friend. Save the cuddling or cuddling until you actually cognize the guy.
We often give away far too more too presently
in our social
encounters. Don't be the type woman that every guy in the neighborhood knows what it’s like to kiss and squeeze. Even as if he says he loves you, remember that love waits. Love is patient, love is kind and real love wish ne'er
disrespect you. Slow down, enjoy the progression of the new relationship. There's no fire, so hold your horses!
God’s plan for you...
God has a plan and it's not just about pointless denial. His plan is 1st marriage and then sex after the legal, spiritual and emotional commitment. Once
you create a list of rules for your kids, you do so to protect them, right? Well, God is no different. He loves you and wants to spare you gratuitous grief.
There is forgiveness....
If for whatsoever
reason, you have engaged in a sexual relationship outside of marriage understand that God still loves you. Our blunders don't do Him love us any less. He urgently
wants to put the pieces of your life back together and do all things new again.
Living life "our way", radio-controlled by our emotions or feelings, always brings disappointment and shame. However, God specializes in such wounds. Allow Him to cleanse your pain and move out your guilt (read 1John 1:9). If you confess your sin, He Wish forgive it. He’s promised. The next and most crucial step is for you to forgive yourself.
Our children....
Our children believe on us to model appropriate moral standards. Most wise moms advise their teens to abstain from sex before marriage. We cautiously explain to them the dangers of sex "now a days". We share how abstinence protects us against sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies. Taking this into account, why should we want thing
several for ourselves? Our children are growing up so fast. Our time with them is really precious. Let's not taint it sick
from unecessary love-related heartbreaks. Nothing is worse for children than to see their moms wounded, hurt, bitter and dejected.
My parent recently told me, (relative to my health) 'a nice parent takes supreme care of herself for the sake of her children'. I think the same applies to emotional health. Don’t run the risk of giving your body and soul away only to be left with an empty bed and broken heart. It actually isn't worth it, single mom.
Just just about the author:
Teri Worten is a freelance writer as well as the founder of the online contemporary magazine for single moms and all women - Gotta Be Me Girl.Com! You can visit her site and see more articles at http://www.gottabemegirl.com
teriworten@gottabemegirl.com
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