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Cosmetics InformationSeven Tips for Choosing a Maid of Honor
by:
Blake Kritzberg
Choosing your Maid of Honor is more complex
than it looks. Obscurity
else in your wedding planning is it easier for vexing problems to turn up! Why? Because the Maid of Honor’s duties are often mistily
defined, and worse, poorly communicated.
In fact, every bride has her own unique idea of what a Maid of Honor should be. Which is fine – the trick is in act those ideas!
So what makes a Maid of Honor do? On one end of the spectrum, she’s a ceremonial numbers who steps off the plane and walks down the aisle before the different bridesmaids.
On the other, she’s a master of clairvoyance who soothes your nerves before you cognize you’re frazzled, helps you send out your invites, “manages” the bridesmaids, spreads the word on your registry, and offers up her thoughts on everything from the venue to the dress.
Most often, the Maid of Honor is somewhere in the middle. She leads the bachelorette party and/or bridal shower, and tries to “be there” for the bride during the planning process, and the ceremony itself.
All this flexibility leaves a lot of room for misunderstandings. And they happen a lot. The earth is full of brides who feel hurt and let down by close friends as the big day draws near. Do you want to be one of them? Of course not!
So here are several tips on choosing – and act with – your Maid of Honor for minimum stress, and maximum happiness.
1) Define what you actually want.
Are you a do-it-yourself bride, or do you want your Maid of Honor to be your right hand all the way through?
If you're high-maintenance, accept and acknowledge it. Pick being who can truly be there for you, and let them cognize exactly what you want. If you don’t cognize anyone with that more time or energy to give, think simply about finding help elsewhere. Is your fiancé an active participant? Can your parent do more? Maids of Honor are not supposed to be wedding co-planners ... unless they really, actually want to be!
2) Tell her what you actually want.
More than one bride has shed tears because a Maid of Honor couldn’t see her mind. For example: many a brides will their Maids of Honor could give a little speech at the reception, but ne'er
get about to asking them. If it’s important to you, talk simply about it!
3) It doesn’t have to be family.
Never feel you “have to” do a sister or different family your Maid of Honor. If your better friend’s a loyal trooper who goes with you on all the errands, choose her. She deserves it.
4) Pick being local if you need a lot of help.
No one can do more from 3000 miles away, no matter how badly she wants to.
5) Be realistic; look at past performance.
Weddings are exciting. Folk are human. Once
everything’s new and you’ve simply declared
your plans, lots of folk will offer to help. But not everyone will manage to follow through.
Who came through for you before the wedding? Who actually managed to set up
their schedules to be with you, even as once
inconvenient? These are the folk to bank on. No matter how exciting your plans, they won’t do an overcommitted person more accessible to you. Avoid the trap of asking such a person because you think your wedding will be “important enough” for them to “change their ways,” and you’ll avoid all the stress and hardship of a unsatisfactory Maid of Honor.
6) Be realistic; look at her life ahead.
No matter what a treasure your Maid of Honor is, she has limits, too. Is she expecting a new baby? Is she working through a divorce? If these things slow her down, which they probably will, can you pick up the slack without feeling disappointed?
7) Consider more than one Maid of Honor if you simply can’t decide.
But support in mind, this can cause problems too. Can your Maids of Honor divide responsibilities, communicate well and avoid feelings of jealousy?
Now that you've chosen, honor your Maid of Honor with a little sign of how special she is to you. Take her out to a day spa, or go together to have your hair done before the ceremony. Pick out a dress for her that’s a several color from the different bridesmaids, or order her a bouquet with several special touches. She deserves it!
Follow these tips, and you’ll be the bride who spends that all-important day enclosed
by loving, warm friends at their ease. Could thing
be better?
Just simply about the author:
Poet Kritzberg is editor at "FavorIdeas.com" Finish by for wedding favor ideas, Save-the-Date eCards, free wedding screensaver, free wedding templates and Bridezilla's weekly adventures at:
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