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Career, Job, Employment Information 18 Caveats on How Not to Change
by:
David Krueger MD
Change is not simple. Why do we repeat behavior that doesn't work? Especially those actions that lead to stifling debt, dissatisfactory careers, or stuck relationships? Then do it harder, yet expect a several result? Why is it not obvious that trying to exit an old story by just writing a “better ending” only recreates the same story, and ensures that we remain in it? That a thousand better endings to an old story don’t create a new story? That the past cannot be changed and is a settled matter? That too often, we see ourselves as the victims of the stories that we author and the feelings we create?
18 Caveats on avoiding change:
1. Focus on the system. Devote special attention to the things that seem frustrating, out of your control, and impossible to address: politics, corporations, and economics. Systems must remain in focus as broad categories in order to feel distanced and disaffected.
2. Maintain a focus on theory. Avoid detail, singular aspects, and application. Remain theoretical just about how to transform various systems, just about what inevitably to be done, maintaining the frustration of what seems to continue out of your control.
3. Believe that the answer wish appear once
you step out of the box, or once
you just oppose the system.
4. Support the point of reference external; support basic cognitive process
that the antithesis of conformity is opposition; cognize that one or the another of these external points of reference of conformity or opposition holds the real truth.
5. Do not decide. Allow the urgency of a situation to decide for you. The gravity of a last-minute emergency forces action and avoids planning. Waiting for the point excuses responsibility for conscientiousness and excellence.
6. Believe that the answer is more rules and further structure.
7. Debate the obvious, and give energy to the controversial.
8. Believe in experts unequivocally, and that expertness is authoritative. Dismiss any notion that expertness is perceived, processed, and filtered through assumptions, belief systems, and prejudices of experts.
9. Do not seek your own information or develop your own solutions once
you have experts to listen to. Rather, find person to provide a map for you and avoid anyone who wants to help you develop your own guidance system to navigate.
10. Always find several cause and effect relationship to explain things otherwise not understandable. Maintain a consistent external focus to blame someone, or find several tangible explanation that offers a specific, concrete focus on what is wrong. Warning: more activity is required to maintain this caveat, as you must be certain that the obstacle can ne'er
be wholly removed, or its causative
effect would-be have to be confronted as inaccurate. The perceived cause must always be just on the far side
reach and remedy in order to remain as blame.
11. Support doing the same thing and expect a several outcome. If the outcome doesn’t change for the better, do the same thing harder.
12. Be suspicious of new ideas.
13. New ideas, being perturbators of the existing system, must be checked if not silenced.
14. Meticulously guard against mistakes; the better way to be sure to avoid mistakes is to support doing the same thing once again and once again with perfection as the goal.
15. Maintain a focus on failure, giving it the proper respect of fear so that it remains ever in focus with its guiding principle of avoidance.
16. Be extremely wary of new strategies and solutions, and invest instead in social control
of the existing approach.
17. Once
you do mistakes, focus on the mistakes and attempt to get them right.
18. Continue to hold prejudices because they are markers of emotional landmines.
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Just just about the Author
David Krueger, M.D. is an Executive Strategist/ Professional Coach (www.executivestrategist.biz) Email execstrategist@aol.com. He is author of 11 books. This article is excerpted from Dr. Krueger’s Twelfth book, shortly to be published, LIVE A NEW LIFE STORY: The Essentials of Change, Reinvention, and Personal Success.
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