E-book Category: Relationships
E-book Title: Its All About You!:
Book Description: Get & Keep the Relationship You Want!
Dear Friend,
If you're not happy with your romantic situation...YOU have the power to change it! You don't have to rely on fate or luck to bring you the perfect man. And you don't have to settle for the wrong man because the good ones always leave. You can get and keep a wonderful man! (Or woman!)
My name is Donna Barnes. As a dating and relationship coach the question women ask me most is "What are men looking for?" The short answer is a woman who loves herself. And the long answer is what I'm going to fill you in on.
It's not really about what you look like. Or what a man thinks of you. It's not about what he wants, or likes or does. It's all about you! It's about what you think. What you feel. And what you choose. It's about truly knowing you are fabulous, (everyone is) and not settling for anyone who isn't smart enough to recognize your fabulousness.
We're all mind readers in a sense because energy is contagious. Whatever you're thinking or feeling about yourself on the inside will be the energy you project on the outside. You are what you think you are. And therefore what everyone else thinks you are too. So if you're thinking "He'd never be interested in me," that's why he's not. And if you're thinking "I can't keep a man," that's why you can't.
Your thoughts create your feelings. Then your feelings cause you to act. Or react. Your actions produce your results. So if you want a different result, it really is as simple as changing your thinking. Of course I realize that's easier said than done. That's why I'm here to help.
Start by asking yourself what you're really looking for. Forget about what a man might want. In fact forget about men all together for now. This is about you. Take a good long look at yourself, beyond just the reflection you see in the mirror. Look into your heart, and your mind. What do you see? Do you like who you are? Are you comfortable with you? What do you really want? None of these questions have anything to do with a man. But when you find happiness for yourself in the answers, men will be very attracted to you. And fall head over heels in love....forever.
Contents
Introduction........................................................................4
Claiming Your Power
1. Are You Giving Away Your Power?............................5
2. What Exactly Are Boundaries?....................................8
Things That Diminish Your Power
3. What are you Thinking?..............................................20
4. Your Imagination is your Enemy...............................23
5. The Only Thing You Have to Fear is Fear itself.......26
6. Put a Breathalyzer on your Blackberry.....................31
Using Your Power to Get a Man
7. Your Appearance.......................................................34
8. Get Him to Ask You Out............................................37
9. Handling the First Date..............................................40
10. Sex Can Make You Stupid.........................................42
Red Flags
11. The Deal-Breakers....................................................47
12. The Grass Can be Greener......................................53
Happily Ever After
13. Love............................................................................56
14. Communication.........................................................58
15. Commonality.............................................................62
16. My Final Thoughts....................................................69
About the Author 70
DONNA HELPS MEN TOO!
It's All About You! is written to women to help them understand what men want. But it's primarily about maintaining your power which Men need to do too. What's most important for everyone is to love yourself first. No one else can truly love you until you truly love yourself.
It's All About You! Will Teach both Women & Men:
How to Maintain Your Power!
Your thoughts, emotions and actions are your power. Maintaining and using your power properly is the key to finding and keeping a happy, healthy relationship. You have the power! You can change your situation without needing anything from anyone else. It's all about you! When you truly accept that the only person you can and need to change is you, you'll find happiness.
What Boundaries Are...And Why They're So Important!
To try to put it simply, knowing your inner feelings, wants, needs and limits; and fulfilling and enforcing them without hurting others, is what healthy boundaries are all about. That means finding your true self and protecting it, no matter what, without needing anyone else's approval. Without healthy boundaries your life and relationships are certain to have problems.
It's All About You! will give you a check list to help identify what boundaries you're missing. You'll learn how too enforce proper boundaries and take care of you, so you can function in a healthy relationship. And you can attract, and recognize a healthy partner.
How to Discover Your True Self!
Your true self is your inner thoughts & emotions. Before you can protect your true self you have to know what it is. It's All About You! will help you discover your individual emotional, physical and sexual needs, desires and limits; and show you how to never compromise them.
How You Are What You Think You Are!
Whatever you're thinking or feeling about yourself on the inside will be the energy you project on the outside. You are what you think you are. And therefore what everyone else thinks you are too.
Your thoughts create your feelings. Then your feelings cause you to act. Or react. Your actions produce your results. So if you want a different result, it really is as simple as changing your thinking. Of course I realize that's easier said than done. It's All About You! will show you how.
How to Prevent Fear From Destroying Your Relationships!
Fear is the root of all relationship evils. There is fear of abandonment, fear of intimacy, fear of commitment, fear of change, fear of rejection, fear of failure, and fear of success. Everyone has fear on some level. We develop it in our childhood. But as an adult you have to become skilled at controlling your fears. If you don't it will surface in your relationships, and cause you to act in destructive ways.
When you succumb to your fears by taking insecure action, the result is usually what you fear most. You push your partner away and they leave you. But when you're empowered you choose to face your fears and accept responsibility for them. It's All About You! will help you gain wisdom to make your relationships better.
How to Build Self-Esteem!
If you don't truly feel lovable how can you possibly believe or trust anyone who says they love you? Low self-esteem goes hand-in-hand with fear as the root of many relationship issues. And it's present in epic proportions. It's All About You! will help you truly love yourself and develop high self-esteem.
How to Break Your Pattern of Choosing the Wrong Partners!
Perhaps you feel like you've been dating many different kinds of people, that you have no real pattern. Well, it may look that way on the surface, but upon closer examination I think you'll see they all share certain criteria. We all have patterns. And without making a conscious effort to change your pattern you will keep attracting and choosing the same type of partners. Therefore you'll keep getting the same result...relationships that don't work. So it makes sense that you might believe that all relationships have problems. But you don't have to settle for a relationship that is anything less than wonderful. I promise, if you change your pattern you can have a better, and healthier relationship!
How to Communicate Effectively!
Communication is one of three vital elements that comprise a healthy relationship. It's largely about how effectively you express your feelings. Your delivery makes all the difference. Poor communication that uses drama and manipulation will destroy love and leave you lonely. But with the right tools and a little practice, you can find true love and happiness.
I'll give you guidelines for emailing and texting too!
How to Fight Fair!
Sometimes it takes a good argument to get important issues out on the table to be worked out. But if you allow a disagreement to escalate into a dramatic fight, it will ultimately cause a break-up. So it's essential to play fair with a powerful set of rules to make your relationship stronger. More... | 
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