E-book Category: Relationships
E-book Title: How To Marry Smart
Author: Robert Busch
Book Description: Dear Friend,
Let's get right to the point. You're reading this letter because you want a happy, loving and successful marriage. Maybe you're engaged. Maybe you're talking about marriage. Maybe you're starting to date exclusively. Regardless of where you are in your relationship, please consider this letter carefully.
Even if you absolutely...positively...no doubt about it...couldn't be more sure you've found the man (or woman) of your dreams, before you say "I do", or exchange vows, or jump over a broom...do whatever it is you plan to say or do at the church, temple, synagogue, mosque, beach, roller rink, courthouse, beach, wherever you plan to get married, please take five minutes out of your busy life to read this important message.
You've probably heard horror stories of marriages from you-know-where and divorce battles from friends or relatives; believe them...the stories are true. Maybe you know from personal experience how painful and expensive divorce can be. Who Am I And Why Should You Listen To Me? My name is Robert Busch and I have been an attorney for more than 22 years. (You can verify my credentials at www.calbar.org. Most of those years have been spent helping thousands of clients with family law problems; divorce, separation, custody, support, property division, etc..
A number of years ago I was sitting in the hallway during a settlement conference at the William R. Ridgeway Family Relations Center in Sacramento, California. My client had gone for some water and I found myself alone with his soon-to-be ex-wife, who was representing herself. Out of the blue she began speaking to me, "My husband is basically a good man, but if I had known about his finances (debts), I would not have married him."
From what I remember my client had not lied to his wife about his finances (debts), but neither had he volunteered the information, and she hadn't thought to ask about his financial situation.
After hearing lots of similar stories I decided I'd heard enough to write a book...so I did. Why This Book? A divorce attorney giving marriage advice? Actually, it's pre-marriage advice. Besides, who better to give you advice on how to marry smart than someone who has seen thousands of failed marriages?
My purpose in providing you with this information is simple: I want to help you make the best decision possible in choosing your spouse in order to increase your chances of having a happy, successful marriage.
There are lots of books and websites that focus on "compatibility", and yes, compatibility is very important; it is important to have shared interests, but out of the 1,000's of actual and potential divorce clients I have spoken with, I don't ever recall one of them telling me they were getting a divorce because they didn't like the same type of music as their spouse.
The information in How To Marry Smart is completely different from everything else out there. I'll leave the matchmaking and compatibility services to other folks, who in some cases do a pretty good job at what they do. What I do is give you the information you must consider if you are serious about spotting and avoiding potential problems.
With about half of all first marriages failing, doesn't it make sense to at least consider this information? And as bad as those odds are, the odds for a successful second marriages are even worse!
Look, marriage is hard work under the best of circumstances. You need to do everything in your power to make your marriage successful, and the most important ingredient in a successful marriage is marrying the right person. The better you get at identifying the losers, the better your chances of avoiding the losers and marrying a winner.
Without good information it's impossible to make a good choice when choosing your spouse...you're just guessing.
Look at what two Marriage and Family instructors have to say about this information:
"This book is a must read for anyone contemplating marriage. In addition to covering all the legal aspects you'd expect an attorney to heed, Robert Busch moves into many other dimensions of human relationships. He prompts the reader to look into motives, values, communications, children, leisure and recreation.
Churches and those counseling persons about to be married would do well to include this book in their readings.
Robert's down-to-earth style makes it appealing to people from various walks of life."
Dr. John Gilroy, Ph.D, former Dean of School of Education, Seattle University.
Helene Gilroy, M.S., former teacher
Former instructors in Marriage and Family Courses in church settings. Let's Get To It. You're reading this letter because: - You want a successful, happy marriage, right?
- You want to increase your chances of spotting the losers as soon as possible, right?
If you answered "Yes" to any of the above questions, you need this information now.
I could spend a lot of time hyping up How To Marry Smart, but the truth is, I don't have to.
Marriage is not a game. If you aren't willing to invest some time and energy to increase your odds of a happy and successful marriage, I have two words for you..."Good luck."
If you plan to rely on your gut instincts, or you plan to let your relatives and friends pick your spouse...don't! This is your life. If your marriage goes bad your relatives and friends may feel sorry for you, but it's not them who might turn to alcohol or drugs to deal with the pain and heartache of a bad marriage; and it will be you-not your relatives and friends who will lie awake at night unable to sleep. Lastly, it will be you, not them, writing out the retainer check for your divorce attorney. If you think I'm exaggerating about how miserable a bad marriage or divorce can be, you haven't experienced it or spoken with someone who has.
After you've finished reading this no frills, easy to read book you'll be much better prepared to make an intelligent decision on whether or not you should marry the person you are dating.
No matter how many other books on marriage you've read, How To Marry Smart will increase your odds of sorting the winners from the other ones, thereby dramatically increasing your odds of having a happy, successful, marriage.
The more information you have, the better decision you can make. I use the word "can", because some of you who are going to read this material marry who you want to marry, despite the fact your brain, family and closest friends are all screaming, "Loser! "
You want easy-to-understand information, without all the filler, in plain English. You want to know how to make the best possible decision in choosing your spouse. Why Am I Spilling The Beans? Why did I go through all the trouble of putting this information together? For starters, I'm a big fan of marriage. I'd like everyone to experience the joy of being part of a loving and happy marriage. For another thing, and this is kind of corny, I feel an obligation to share the knowledge and experience I've learned from others' experiences. Writing this book was the best way I could think of to share this information with as many of you as possible. What Will You Learn? Here's some of what you'll learn in How To Marry Smart: - What are some of the most common mistakes people choosing a spouse make?
- What are some simple things you can do to avoid the losers when choosing your spouse?
- Should you hire a private investigator?
- 214 questions/tips you should consider before accepting a marriage proposal, or if you're already engaged, before you say I do. Question/tip 213 may be the one that sets off the warning alarm that saves you from a 'Titanic-like" marriage.
This Information Will Help You If You Use It. I guarantee this information will help you if you use it. On the other hand, if you throw it in the trunk of your car, or put it on a shelf to collect dust, save your money; you're going to need it later. You don't have to be a rocket scientist to understand and benefit from the information in How To Marry Smart , but you do need to read it. More... | |
